The Bottom Line
I’ve taken the last eight months to discuss several of the issues in raising strong-willed children, spanning the entire makeup of the strong-willed child and their interaction with their parents. In doing so, I’ve passed along methods used by Dr. Dobson, other experts, and myself and my wife in raising strong-will children.
Strong willed children are a gift from the Lord and often become excellent leaders and workers in both the Lord’s kingdom and … Continue reading
Strong Wills, Strong Parents – Relational Control
Sometime in your child’s life, they will make the decision. For some it is cataclysmic, nerve-wracking, and life changing—a significant emotional event. For others, it is a gradual process. But it happens to all children as they grow. What am I talking about? The decision a child makes to strike out on his/her own.
Flying the Coop
When children depart the home, there is a struggle between the relationships your son … Continue reading
Strong Wills, Strong Parents – Informational Control
The Information Battle
I went to a play one time and as I settled into my seat, a person walked on stage.
“You are reminded that this play contains some foul language and sexually suggestive language. Therefore, people seventeen and under should not view this play.”
The lady walked off the stage and I wondered what kind of play I signed up to watch. It was a musical comedy called, “Young Frankenstein.” … Continue reading
Strong Wills, Strong Parents – Spiritual Control
Earlier Is Better Than Later.
We’re going to talk about children that are between the ages of twelve and fourteen. But it is much easier to instill spiritual control in your children when they are young.
The Gosling – Dr. Dobson’s Insights.
Dr. Dobson uses nature, specifically the ‘imprinting’ of a new-born gosling to illustrate this early teaching point. When a young gosling is born, it becomes “attached or ‘imprinted’ … Continue reading
Strong Wills, Strong Parents – Physical Control
The Adolescent Boy
When we pulled into the church parking lot, my mother was steaming because of my unruly behavior in the car. My sisters and brother got out of the car, wisely gliding ahead of me to the safety of the church.
“I didn’t do anything wrong.” I looked straight ahead, walking beside my mom. “When I tell you to do something, I mean it.” Mom’s eyes gave me the … Continue reading
Strong Wills, Strong Parents – Verbal Control
Have You Noticed?
With each Newsletter, the strong-willed child’s age has increased.
Why would I do that?
I’d like you to have an example of increased response complexity for several different ages as a reference.
With that in mind, let’s look at verbal control and the nine or ten-year-old.
Tangling with the Tongue To Muddle Your Mind.
Some children are verbal from the day they are born. They go from cooing, to … Continue reading
Strong Wills, Strong Parents – Emotional Control
Tugging the Heart Strings
Imagine a picture of a happy child. Smiles, cute poses for the camera, and a light in their eyes that makes the heart sing! And this confirms what we always knew, that children are a gift from the Lord.
But what about the child with the pouty face, the one who sniffs, whines, makes sad, puppy dog frowns, and otherwise makes you feel inadequate, like something you’ve done … Continue reading
Strong Wills, Strong Parents – Mental Control
The Calculating Child
In his book, 1Solid Answers, Dr. Dobson is asked if children are “really that calculating about their misbehavior.”
His answer? “Some are; some aren’t.”
A child’s desire to control their environment is ‘pre-wired’ into their operating system from the moment they’re conceived. Some are more interested in absolute control than others.
Dr. Dobson continues his response with a story about a young friend of his, named Earl. This … Continue reading
Strong Wills, Strong Parents: Techniques to Lead the Strong-Willed Child, Letter #1 – Intro
The Series Blueprint.
What can I do with my child? Who can help? How do I handle this situation?
These are questions I have heard from many parents raising strong-willed children. Our own children exhibited the same condition. My wife and I found that it took strong-willed parents to lead them to future success.
In the following seven newsletter articles, I’ll explore seven areas in which parents … Continue reading